Adulthood, Career, Love & Relationships, Wellness

How to Awaken Your Authentic Self

As another year comes to a close, many people will be embracing the “New Year, New Me” concept. This year, I challenge you to awaken your authentic self instead.

Locked away, deep inside is your most authentic being who is waiting to come out. They might be weighed down by social media happy reels, unrealistic beauty standards or other people’s expectations of how you should live your life. If you find yourself questioning who the real (your name here) is, here’s how you can awaken your most authentic self so you can live life more happily.

Are you ready to set your true self free? Awaken your authentic self following these steps for a truer you and a happier life.

Speak your truth.

Being authentic includes being able to genuinely express how you feel and to say what you mean. A prime example of this is saying “I’m okay” when you really aren’t or excessive sugar coating of your concerns. If no one understands what you mean, you can’t expect to receive the desired outcome.

If you have a tendency to lie to yourself, or others as a way to avoid confrontation, a recent study shows that lying, regardless of the intention, was almost always damaging to a person’s physical and mental health. And practicing honesty improved the overall happiness of peoples’ lives.

“It’s easy to slip on a pair of rose-colored glasses when shit hits the fan. It’s harder to keep them on when shit starts piling up.”

The other side of the authenticity coin is speaking up when you have something to say. It’s easy to slip on a pair of rose-colored glasses when shit hits the fan. It’s harder to keep them on when shit starts piling up. Should that happen, that would be the perfect time to awaken that beautiful thing called your voice.

There will always be someone you will try to talk over you, put words in your mouth and speak for you. Your voice is one of the most powerful things you can possess so don’t be afraid to use it.

Dance, shimmy or walk to the beat of your own drum.

Even when we succeed, we still have the tendency to undermine our own accomplishments when we start thinking about all the should haves and could haves. Whether you are trying to climb the corporate latter, build a business or grow your following, you should never feel as if you need to do something a certain way, or should be anything other than yourself, to reach your goals.

“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.”

ALAN WATTS

It does take a lot of courage to be your true self and to awaken that understanding of what makes you truly happy. The first step to feeling comfortable admitting you rather walk, than dance, to the beat of your own drum (or you could care less about drums at all) is to remember that the road to success and happiness is not linear.

Hailee Steinfeld sings in her song, Most Girls, “you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen.” Maybe you enjoy going out every night. Or maybe you enjoy being a homebody. Whatever it is you like or don’t like, when you live by your own standards, instead of somebody else’s, is when you will feel your best.

Commit.

When it comes to decision making, I often hear the response “maybe,” more than I’d like. It’s non-committal and offers no clues as to which decision you are leaning towards. While “maybe” can mean “possibility” and “hope,” it can also disguise our feelings of:

  • Fear; when you’re afraid to say “yes.”
  • Guilt; when you want to say “no” but rather delay your answer as to not disappoint the other person.

If you fall into one of the two categories above, consider “if it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a hell no.”

Overthinking situations can lead you to psyche yourself out. Trust your gut and if you already know the answer, practice committing to either saying “yes” or “no” as a way to feel more confident and more in control in how you chose to live your life.

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24 Comment

  1. Reply
    Jessiya.white@aol.com
    January 3, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    Woww, what can I say, youโ€™ve done it again! Iโ€™ve been a subscriber to your blog for almost 6 months now, possibly a little less and I genuinely LOVE reading all your blogs. You are amazing and I hope you never stop blogging.

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      Katrina H.
      January 5, 2019 at 2:21 am

      Thank you Jessiya you are so sweet! Itโ€™s readers like you that keep me blogging ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Alyazia
    January 5, 2019 at 2:55 am

    Thatโ€™s lovely article, so true it can damage your health and stress you out, this week I had an episode of stress and my head was so painful, had to go to the doctor. But I moved forward and now I am fine.

    Great blog and very helpful

    1. Reply
      Katrina H.
      January 6, 2019 at 5:31 pm

      Thanks for your sweet words Alyazia. Iโ€™m glad to hear youโ€™re feeling better and hope you have a stress free year!

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    Susan
    January 5, 2019 at 6:50 am

    Love this! Let your yes be yes and your no be no. I grew up believing that “being polite” was the primary directive. While politeness is important, holding it too closely – at the expense of authenticity – can be disastrous. Only took 45 years or so to learn that!

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      Katrina H.
      January 6, 2019 at 5:33 pm

      Yes! Iโ€™m totally with you about growing up and believing always being polite was the way to go. You can still be kind but learned hold to your tongue just to avoid conflict.

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    Stephanie
    January 5, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    I think my worst downfall that you mention is not knowing when to say no and overthinking. For the most part, I try to do what makes me happy regardless of what others think. But, I have a hard time saying no to people.

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    Amanda Yorton
    January 5, 2019 at 5:57 pm

    I am the WORST at overthinking. My anxiety takes the best of me at times but my husband can normally talk me down.

    1. Reply
      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:03 am

      Itโ€™s so easy to get caught up in racing thoughts.
      Someoneโ€™s a nice talk down with close friend or loved one always helps give some clarity and happy to hear your husband can give that to you ๐Ÿ™‚

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    April Marquardt
    January 5, 2019 at 6:52 pm

    This spoke to me so much. I am always afraid to say No to someone. Im really trying hard this year to change that.

    1. Reply
      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:03 am

      Glad to hear youโ€™re trying! Thatโ€™s always the first step in the positive direction

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    Kayla
    January 6, 2019 at 4:46 am

    This is absolutely beautiful. It is so important to be as true to you as you can be. Saying NO is one of my top priorities this year. Also in my blog, I try to be as authentic and real as I can be.

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      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:04 am

      Thanks Kayla, I appreciate it! Would love to check out more of your blog and learn more about you ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Kate Loves Travel
    January 6, 2019 at 11:10 am

    This is great advice! I try to always dance to my own beat… although it’s not always easy to say no when other people want you to do something different!

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    Wendy Lemeric
    January 6, 2019 at 5:30 pm

    I always say what’s on my mind and I am for the truth. Rarely, it gets me into trouble.lol But really, when I’m not okay, I flat out say it and show it. This has been an empowering read.

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      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:05 am

      Thatโ€™s amazing to hear Wendy and I admire that! So many of us should do that more. And thanks for the kind words

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    Lauren
    January 7, 2019 at 10:29 am

    This is actually one of my New Years resolutions for 2019. Out with the old and in with my true self!

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    Flossie McCowald
    January 7, 2019 at 6:36 pm

    Aww, love this! And if there are any skeptics out there, THIS WORKS! This is more or less the process I went through, as my New Year’s Goal realized for 2014, in overcoming my fears/finishing letting go of my former self, enough that I could start my own blog – haven’t looked back since! ๐Ÿ™‚

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      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:06 am

      Yes! Iโ€™m glad that led to you starting a blog. How empowering is that? ๐Ÿ™‚

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    nicole durham
    January 7, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    this is such a great concept. I love the idea of being true to yourself and overcoming self-doubts. such an inspirational read <3

    1. Reply
      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:06 am

      Thanks Nicole ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Elizabeth O
    January 8, 2019 at 12:46 pm

    Speak your truth is definitely at the top of the list and it can be hard to do when we are surrounded by endless noise from a wide range of sources. But we must stand our ground and stick to it. You’ve made all good points.

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    Jason
    January 10, 2019 at 5:04 pm

    My girlfriendโ€™s starting a business and has been listening all day to podcasts about following your gut. I forwarded this to her, thank you for the inspiration!

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      Katrina H.
      January 11, 2019 at 12:01 am

      Thanks so much for your sweet words Jason! Tell your girl good luck !

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