It’s been real 2017 and at times really f*cking long. Through all the late nights at the office, happy hours with my best ones, and all the good and bad that has transpired, it has been one hell of a year and I am more than ready for what 2018 will bring and most importantly, what I will do to make it happen.
If you are confident that this year will be your year, as you commit to your New Year’s resolutions and other goals, remember these four things to leave behind 2017.
Everyone knows that the start of the New Year means a blank slate. Yet when it comes to resolutions, only 8% of people actually keep theirs. Why do so many fail? Because we are quick to forget that Day One can begin any day.
Got a late start on your resolutions? Start today. Already slipped up? Start again. If you ever find yourself making excuses such “I’m too tired” or “I’m too afraid,” for the things you believe matter, try telling yourself “(Fill in the blank) is not a priority” and see if that shifts your perspective.
Every day is a new chance to begin, to retry, and to move forward so leave your excuses behind and get started.
I know – it sucks. The relationship was just so damn good. Maybe it never was. It’s tempting to pick up the phone and call or look them up on social media to see what they are up to now. Remember, they are your ex for a reason. Clinical Psychologist, Melanie Greenberg Ph.D explains the best way to get over a break-up is to change your mindset.
Research shows those with a “fixed mindset,” attribute the failure of their relationship to traits they believe are unchangeable or “fixed” about their self, such as thinking they are too needy or not pretty enough, often endure lingering effects of romantic rejection such as constantly wondering what went wrong and fear of being rejected again. Those with a “growth mindset” take a break-up as a learning opportunity and are hopeful for the future. Instead of fixating on why it failed, they focus on what they can improve on for the next time such as being less controlling or less jealous.
The longest relationship you are ever going to have is the one with yourself. Take relish in the fact this year is about YOU. Use this time to learn more about yourself and remember you deserve only the best in all aspects of your life. Allow yourself to let go so you can move forward.
Don’t pollute the start of your year with toxic people and negative energy. When you are having to constantly deal with the Sour Sally or the Gossiper, their negative energy can not only squash your positive vibes but can also drain you emotionally and mentality, putting severe stress on your brain according to this recent study.
Reset and recharge by being the energy you hope to attract. Surround yourself with people who support you and reconnect with the things that matter most to you.
What I personally learned about impatience is how insensitive and careless I could be at times. When I look back at all the times I hoped a conversation I was having with a friend would end just so I could get back to doing whatever I thought was more important, I forgot to express gratitude that they were taking the time out of their day to talk to me because they cared.
While it’s easy to cut off a slow driver or wonder why all the things you hoped for have not happened yet, step back from the situation and be mindful. Maybe that driver is lost and is being cautious. Even if your journey might be taking longer than someone else’s, realize you’re taking the necessary steps to get where you want to go. “Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.”
As you embark on this New Year, what are your top things you are leaving behind? Tell me below!